The Giving of Friends and Family This Holiday Season published an article on 11/21 where Rebecca Palmer discussed the importance of divorced parents providing their children with a meaningful “Friendsgiving” when the more traditional extended family gathering is no longer feasible. “Family” has many meanings, and thus, a meal shared with loved ones with whom you don’t share biological kinship can be meaningful both for the divorced spouse and the children—and a Friendsgiving can even occur on another day besides the final Thursday in November.

“If you are separated or divorced, there has never been a better time than now to embrace the nontraditional or create new Thanksgiving traditions as an individual and for your children,” Rebecca writes. “This will be a good opportunity to give your children additional responsibilities such as basting the turkey, making a side dish, or setting the table. It is also an opportunity for everyone to feel involved and enjoy a ‘family’ meal, whether it is for your family or friends.”

The holiday season can be confusing for children of divorced parents, who may still feel angry about the separation. Holiday celebrations might increase these feelings, so it is essential to acknowledge them and talk through them with your children and help them embrace their new normal.

“So, as we give thanks during this holiday, make sure to surround yourself with people who understand and respect your needs during this period of transition and heightened stress,” she says. “Remember, the most important focus is creating positive and meaningful experiences for yourself and your family.”

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